General observations during the selfencounters
- One-on-one as the first selfencounter. Felt safer for the clients and they could get to know me and the form of therapy
- The ego does not join in as a resonance element. The ego is so split off that the intention initiator has no contact with it. When the ego is missing, we have no inner point of reference for our thoughts, feelings, and thinking (1)
- The difficulty of remaining autonomous in the process. It is challenging for many practice clients to choose their own intention
Reflecting on the therapist role
Being patient and sitting with the unknown
Support the client in the process and hold a safe space
Give the person stating the intention enough space without intervening too early, trusting the development of the process and the self-regulation of the client's psyche.
I will meet the client where he/she is today
Be present, have no expectations, and stay within the framework of the client's intention
Reflecting on the therapist role
My biggest challenge: knowing how much to intervene
The main question: What basic, existential needs did I have that were not being met?
During an intervention, it is important that the person stating the intention does not simply repeat the sentence without making emotional contact
Guidance selfencounters: to raise awareness and process what I have encountered in myself in the meeting with the client
Personal therapy for my own growth: reducing the risk of getting stuck where I am stuck as a therapist, or passing my own issues onto the client
Reflecting on the therapist role
The intention giver must decide for themselves how far they want to go.
We can only resolve the consequences of trauma when we ourselves have the authority to handle what happened.
Do not define what the client has experienced
If I want to force something through, it is purely for my own survival.
The human psyche is self-regulating: Self-regulation begins with the person stating their intention choosing who they want to speak with among the parts, and defining the intention themselves.
Reflecting on the therapist role
Good understanding of and confidence in the theory
We must first be able to acknowledge what we have experienced and its consequences before we can connect with our deep, split-off feelings.
In order to get in touch with these deep feelings, we must first acknowledge what we needed (our existential needs)
Do not overexplain the theory to the client
References
(1) Ruppert, F. (2019). Love, Lust and Trauma
(2) Image page 5: https://www.politics-dz.com/en/concept-of-relativeautonomy-model-of-state/
